Sometimes, sometimes not. I am better at cutting communication than other people, probably to a fault. That said, I am not good at actually letting go. I think about people long after I stop talking to them. That one is definitely to a fault.

I wouldn't say I'm afraid as often as I feel guilty. Sure, there are times when I do get anxious, especially if I just forgot to respond for a while. Most of the time, though, I just feel bad for leaving people hanging. It is something I am working on improving.

I won't defend your friends who don't communicate because it is a flaw. I won't defend myself either. If you tell them you are upset, or worried, or angry, or whatever else, then it's on them to respond. As you said, people naturally lose touch, but it is shitty to just ghost others.

I have this exact same dilemma with my old online friend that I knew almost a decade ago. We drifted about since the pandemic and it's been a while since we talked (no bad terms, just stopped talking). I know what his ig account is but I am afraid to reach out to them since they have changed a lot since i talked to them. They transitioned and i felt like it would be too awkward and weird (imo) to talk to someone that only knew me before they transitioned. But, I never attempted to even add them, so how would I know? I just don't what to do with that tbh :/

I'm afraid of them getting annoyed and lashing out at me for annoying them

i also get soooooo annoyed at people who say "i wanna be close" but make no effort to!!!! as you know, im dealing with that rn too :(( it makes me sooo sad and upset bc i try really hard to keep in touch with people

Yes, I struggle with this a lot :( I haven't talked to my childhood friends in quite a while after moving cities bc of this... I've seen a few videos of ppl talking about how they get annoyed when ppl they were friends with before try to talk to them again randomly, and I'm scared that's how my friends feel, and it just gets worse the longer I feel that way bc I end up ghosting them. It iust kinda becomes a never ending cycle. Im also just afraid to open up to them, so they never open up to me, and they just end up feeling like a stranger, and i become unmotivated to get to know them bc ive got nothing to work with, yk? Like, i should know these people, but theyre so different now that so many years have passed. Idk where I picked this up from tbh, and idk if I'll ever find out T_T idk, I feel like they'd be better off not being my friend. It seems like it'd be really exhausting

I think in general, kinda.

It's a bad habit, I just overthink sometimes about how the person I'm reaching out to will respond, I want to reach out more often, it's just me being bad at communication sometimes, it sucks.

I think it depends on which person you trust.

I shared some insensitive info which I won't explain, to someone I thought I can trust, but told it to everyone.

Because of that, I've been cautious on who to talk too.
But on a honest note, I'm quite open to whoever I trust, either parent, friend, therapist, or family.

But don't worry, I'm fine, the insensitive info that've been told to everyone doesn't give a damn. So, I'm on the safe side for now.


PSA from me:
Please be careful which personal experience you tell to anyone.